Breast cancer can catch anyone by surprise. Why I say that is because the usual history is a lump felt in the breast over a few weeks to a month or two or more. Apparently innocent as it caused no pain or upset the rhythm of life. It was just there! I identify with this extremely unpleasant feeling of being caught out or cornered or ganged up against, when this innocuous lump is declared cancer, almost everyday. How could a lump which was just there till yesterday change life indelibly? The grief that accompanies the diagnosis is unfathomable in most. The denial that follows and the unfairness of the situation is quite hard hitting. I, as a Clinician, after so many years of being witness to this familiar response, still find it hard to say something sensible to console, especially if the affected is young. It is almost as if I am on their side, a part of their family, going through this heart- wrenching sequence. When I am at a loss, the best I do, is hold their hands and say everything will be alright. I want it that way and no other way, as every doctor would. And it works!
I liken the situation to being in quicksand. If you struggle too much with the situation, you get pulled in, the brain gets clouded and wrong decisions are made. If you reach out to a helping hand, gently ease yourself out with coaxing and cajoling coming from your loved ones, you make it! How one handles the situation has a large part to play in what the final outcome would be.
We do not choose situations in life and some situations do catch you unawares. What you can choose, is your response to the situation- accepting it, making light of it, taking it in your stride and going through treatment with the desire to heal and bounce back, is usually what winners do!!